All We Need is Control

Whether it be self or otherwise

I haven’t used social media for a number of years now. Maybe I realized how impactful it has become in everyone’s lives or maybe it was just me feeling like I was getting old. Either way, it used to be a big part of my life and now I’ve controlled my consumption of it. That’s just one example of control changing my life but there are tons I could list off.

Control doesn’t always feel like this noble cause. Most times for me, I feel as though asserting control can feel painful or boring right when I do it. Every time though without fail, I end up being proud of myself for being disciplined. When I am on my computer writing one of these posts and the buzzer on my dryer goes off, I never want to get up right away to take care of my laundry. I’d much rather do a fun thing in my semi-comfy Ikea office chair than finish laundry. But nevertheless, I always make the CHOICE to assert control over my feeling and life and I get up out of my chair.

Lately, I’ve felt the need to assert control over my life more and more as well. It might be the promotion I got or it could just be the seemingly grim realization that I am now older than the age that my mom was when she had me (there is really no way to tell). Consequently, it has made me be more intentional with my everyday life. I realize the habits of the mind I have developed throughout my life and just how damaging the coloring of those habits have been.

If I could give any advice to tie this all together, I’d say this: No matter how boring you think a chore is. No matter how exhausted you feel. No matter what your internal monologue is telling you. It is always wise to assert controls when you could make your life better.

Written on August 02, 2025.